Being good to your parents

Being good to our parents is one of the most important obligations in Islam. Our parents do so much for us throughout our lives, from the time we are born, throughout our childhood and often until well into our adulthood. We can never repay our parents for what they do for us. We are instructed by Allah and His Messenger (ﷺ) to be kind to our parents in every respect. We are ordered to be dutiful to them, to care for them, to help them, to make them happy with whatever we can, to ensure that they have the best experience we can give them throughout their life.

We should be super careful when it comes to our parents. They took care of us when we were babies and helpless. We should do our utmost to care for them when they are old. We should talk to them when they are sad. And we should talk to them when they are happy. They will say things that seem outdated to us, but we should listen and obey and be respectful of their wishes. The only exception to this if they ask us to disobey Allah: we should still treat them well, just don’t obey them in disobeying Allah. We are to love and care for our parents even if they are disbelievers.

The dua of the parents is one of the most effective prayers for the children. So the children should strive to get as much dua from them by being good to them. Similarly the due against the children by the unhappy parents is just as effective. This is hard to imagine, because what parent would want to make dua against their own children. However, it is not the dua uttered but the hurt that is felt that is sufficient. If the parents are treated badly and just cry out thinking how badly their children are treating them, that is enough to be a dua against their children.

We all know this yet we see so many who aren’t good to their parents.

It is one of the greatest sins to be unkind to parents. Being disrespectful to parents or making them cry or hurting them in any way is such a huge sin that according to an authentic Hadith the punishment for it is seen in this world as well as the torment that is reserved for it in the hereafter. May Allah protect us all from our own evil actions.

And Allah knows best.

Please follow and like us:

Left behind!

The chief of a nomadic desert tribe asked his wife to ready the luggage for the next journey. He instructed his wife to leave behind his Alzheimer prone mother who lately mocked him in front of his followers and caused him great embarrassment.

“Leave her behind..” the chief said “she is now sick and has caused us a great deal of hurt and pain and we are not able to take care of her anymore”.. “let’s leave her here in the open perhaps other nomads will take her along when they pass by”… “or simply the desert heat will cause her hastened death!!”

The wife, prepared the luggage, and hoisted all the necessities atop the camels for the journey ahead. She put as much food and rations by the chief’s mother as she could before they left the elderly mother behind.

But the chief’s wife left her one year old son with the chief’s Mother. The child was the chief’s only son and the love of his adult life. Every time the chief rested under his tent he asked his wife to for bring his son for playful quality time with him.

As the caravan moved all morning, they rested midday and setup camp. The chief asked his wife to bring his son over as usual. The chief’s wife told him that she left his son with his mother… “we don’t need him” she said!

The chief shouted “why?” .. “why, are you crazy?”, he madly yelled.. The chief’s wife replied “am afraid your son will leave you in the open desert in your old age, as you did with your mother”.

His wife’s words landed on the chief like ton of bricks. He realized what he has done and remorse filled his heart. The chief then grappled his rifle and rode his horse as fast as he could towards his mother and child before desert beasts devoured them as prey.

The chief arrived at his mother’s site and found her surrounded by desert wild dogs. She held the child tightly to her chest in a protective grab while throwing rocks at the beasts as they run circles around her to snatch the child from her grip. The elderly mother held the child in one hand and and threw rocks with other and crying loudly “stay away … Shooo shooo!”

The chief fired multiple rounds from his rifle killing a few desert wild dogs and sending the rest fleeing into the desert’s mirage. The chief then ran towards his protective mother kissing her head and hands and penitently crying tears of remorse seeking his mother’s forgiveness.

The chief returned with his mother and child safely to his tribe.

It was said that the chief never left his mother’s site or sight and was forever dutiful to her. Whenever the tribe migrated anywhere, the chief always made sure his mother was on the best camel and rode behind her on his horse, guarding her from all harm.

When the umbilical cord is cut by the deliverer’s hands, a part of our mothers’ remains with us. Touch your bellybutton, your navel… see?.. she remains with you. Now make a prayer for your mom!

“وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا” الإسراء :٢٣

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. Quraan 17:23

 

Text of an email sent by a friend.

Please follow and like us: