Being good to our parents is one of the most important obligations in Islam. Our parents do so much for us throughout our lives, from the time we are born, throughout our childhood and often until well into our adulthood. We can never repay our parents for what they do for us. We are instructed by Allah and His Messenger (ﷺ) to be kind to our parents in every respect. We are ordered to be dutiful to them, to care for them, to help them, to make them happy with whatever we can, to ensure that they have the best experience we can give them throughout their life.
We should be super careful when it comes to our parents. They took care of us when we were babies and helpless. We should do our utmost to care for them when they are old. We should talk to them when they are sad. And we should talk to them when they are happy. They will say things that seem outdated to us, but we should listen and obey and be respectful of their wishes. The only exception to this if they ask us to disobey Allah: we should still treat them well, just don’t obey them in disobeying Allah. We are to love and care for our parents even if they are disbelievers.
The dua of the parents is one of the most effective prayers for the children. So the children should strive to get as much dua from them by being good to them. Similarly the due against the children by the unhappy parents is just as effective. This is hard to imagine, because what parent would want to make dua against their own children. However, it is not the dua uttered but the hurt that is felt that is sufficient. If the parents are treated badly and just cry out thinking how badly their children are treating them, that is enough to be a dua against their children.
We all know this yet we see so many who aren’t good to their parents.
It is one of the greatest sins to be unkind to parents. Being disrespectful to parents or making them cry or hurting them in any way is such a huge sin that according to an authentic Hadith the punishment for it is seen in this world as well as the torment that is reserved for it in the hereafter. May Allah protect us all from our own evil actions.
And Allah knows best.